Does your future worry you? Do your nagging health concerns chip away at your confidence?
Do you scream: “I want to be the ‘real ME?” That is what a gorgeous Susan said to me recently. She was fed up with all the crap on the shelves and never knowing what to eat, she felt her choices were “always wrong.”
- There is never anyone to talk to.
- I just want to feel ‘normal’.
- I’m fit but not eating right.
- I feel alone
Be honest does this sound like you? Do you feel like gorgeous Susan?
I get it, life just happens! You are plodding away beautifully and suddenly life takes a swerve and a big change hits you right in the belly.
It could be:
- an ageing parent needing your help,
- an errant teenager sapping you of energy,
- or maybe even a divorce.
Life happens, an event like divorce or redundancy takes over your life and where does this leave you personally? How are your health and well-being affected by these changes? Do you even recognise yourself? Are the same person that you were 20 years ago?
I understand in order to get things done and feel safe you control everything. Nobody can do it as fast or as well as you. Many women are ‘control freaks’.
You try to control every situation, it is the way you cope. It is your defence mechanism. It is how you weather the many demands in your busy life.
Being in control allows you a sense of calm. It sounds crazy but when you have a plan you can just do your ‘to-do list’ and nothing more. Your list is a security blanket.
The problem with this security blanket is that you have to rely on everything and everyone is in the right place at the right time. Everybody sticking to the plan! But what if they don’t, what if life happens, what happens if an extra load is added? It may be redundancy, illness or something less stressful but equally as impactful like the menopause.
Living your life with that level of anxiety is not sustainable. If everything has to be done your way it means you are doing it. If you are doing everything and thinking for everyone, your long-term health is going to suffer.
Do you feel that it is all too much?
- Are you losing your motivation?
- Smiling on the outside but crying on the inside?
- Do you know what is right when it comes to your food choices?
- Are you eating the right things for your level for activity?
Do you want to find out more? The Get Gorgeous journey will change the way you look at food, health and exercise forever and give you the soul support you have been craving. Reach out and book a complimentary session with me. I guarantee you will find clarity, a path to move forward.
It is easy to stay stuck not to move on, wait another year, until you have some time, some money or until uncle Bert has clipped the hedge. What are you waiting for, why are you so stuck?
5 common reasons why you are stuck
1. Lack of self-confidence
Belief in yourself is complex. You know you are brilliant at your day to day activities, multi-tasking, getting the job done. Your to-do list offers you no challenge, you can plough through that and nobody gets in your way. However dramatic life changes can change the course of your life in a second. Changes that bring an extra burden and can affect your life. The extra work drains you of your youthful vigour and your powerful ‘can do’ belief system.
NOW is your time to re-energise and re-boot that belief system before it is too late.
2. Fear of failure
Failing is the most common reason women tell me that they are scared of taking the first step. What if I fail? What if I can’t do it? Having that thought on repeat rinse is going to keep you in the same place. Where are you going to be in 3 months time if you don’t take your first step today?
3. Working with conflicting pieces of information
Conflicting information is a great source of stress and creates a confusing approach. Conflicting advice from family and well-meaning friends means you don’t know where to go or what to do. You take on board a snippet here, a morse of advice there and it all seems contradictory and leading nowhere. FAST.
4. Going it alone
No plan just great intentions and a positive attitude will wain if you don’t have a clear objective and a pre-determined path. Step by step chunking things down into manageable bits that work for you. When you are so close to the problem, it is hard to see a way forward. You need clarity, a calm objective view.
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5. BUSY always busy no time for me!
That is a hard one, I get it. You are busy, so busy. Too busy to spend time on yourself. I would like to prod you and ask if you don’t make time for yourself where is it going to lead. What will your future look like? Same health problems as your parents?
Are you busy for busy sake? Are you activity levels linked to your self-esteem or maybe even your self-confidence? If you are busy you don’t have to investigate what you are really hiding from.
“Imagine how quickly you could improve your health if you had support?”
Support and gentle guidance. Imagine a hand to hold and reassurance that you are you doing the right thing, yes you can fulfil your personal challenge to yourself for that day. I don’t doubt for one moment that you can DO everything you need to do for everyone else in your life. Where is your support? Who can you turn to for comfort, direction and support?
The big question is where is your support? Who can you turn to for comfort, direction and support?
“Isn’t it time you had some time for yourself?”
I invite you to draw a line in the sand and reconnect with your gorgeous self. Imagine what life would be like without having that nagging feeling at the back of your mind about your health and your weight? The freedom to cope with life and the space to be reflective?
Take a moment to get life into perspective.
If you take care of your health you could tackle the rest of your life with ease. Increased energy and a calm outlook would help you to accomplish all your other goals. You don’t need to do this all on your own. You don’t need to be alone. It all starts with one small step.
Reach your goals faster and reconnect with yourself by taking your first step. Take the time out of your day to apply for one free coaching session
You can’t burden your dearest and beloved friends with your deepest secrets about your health issues and to be honest, they are probably in the same boat as you, they won’t be able to move you forward. A friendly professional, somebody who is on your side. Dedicated to you.
You and I can talk through your health blocks, understand what is pulling you away from your health goals. Explore and investigate, uncover and release. Wow doesn’t that sound soul-affirming?
Find direction in your life, a sustainable way forward.
Adele Stickland BSc (Hons) is an inspirational Wellness in the Workplace Speaker, Coach and International Best Selling Author.
Contact Adele for wellbeing workshops that reduce stress and increase productivity within your organisation www.get-gorgeous.com/corporate