Looking fantastic, appearing calm and having that outward appearance of ‘superwomen’ is rife. Women, in particular, put so much pressure on themselves. This blog will allow you to feel stronger about putting yourself first, it will give you permission to look after yourself and show you how you can have space and time to evaluate what is going on in your life. Your life can change and it begins with loving yourself right now, exactly as you are, warts and all. Mindset is the foundation to change, everything else falls into place including weight loss and great health once your mindset is connected to your bigger vision. But how do you get there when you are so busy? This blog will help you to find your route to navigate how you can be the best that you can be.
Are you who you want to be?
Actually, I feel really good about myself despite the barrage of comments from well-meaning kids, family members and celebrities that make feel about 2 inches tall. I have a few weird traits that I celebrate for instance #bossy #neat #bigbum #liketickingboxes #warrior (like most mums) #organised #overexuberant #loveahashtag #annoyinglypositive #busy
I recognise these traits are mine and I own them, they are part of me.
However, I am painfully aware that one of my traits is powerfully detrimental to me, the trait of being busy for busy sake. Like a lot of women I work hard, it gives me a sense of accomplishment (hence the tick box mania) but also it prevents me from over thinking. Deep down in my subconscious, I know that if I keep going I don’t have to think, change my ways or be something else. I have come to realise that my busy trait is preventing my self-growth. My own personal development is being hindered because I am so busy.
Learning to meditate, hosting retreats, teaching Pilates gives me the opportunity to slow down. In addition appreciating what is good about me, what I like about myself and what is great about my life also enables me to slow down and bring in more of what I want, which includes cups of tea looking at the garden. Allowing myself this time for introspection allows me to grow, in my business and in my personal life.
My question to you is are you where you want to be? Do you give yourself time to stop? What barrier do you put up to change? Are you uber busy, or practising your perfection skills are you hard on yourself? These barriers to change can be subconscious and spending time analysing where you are now and then daydreaming about where you want to be can be your greatest skill for bringing about change.
Get out of your own way
What barriers do you put up to change? What is your default excuse? We all have them, perhaps a victim mentality serves you. Feeling as if looking after my family is my number one priority I don’t need to look after myself they need me more.
I understand that “others come first” mentality
It took 10 years to bring my family together and I nearly killed myself (and my partner) getting there. I feel like a ‘warrior’ when it comes to my family. I will protect and serve to my own detriment. Superwoman is an image we all love to portray. Mantra’s run through your head like:
“I can cope bring it on” but I will moan and bitch and let you know exactly how much I am doing for you. Is that the way to be?
Socks! One of my ‘ah’ moments started with socks. My middle son Joe is a teenager, therefore, he can’t add several things to his to-do list. It has to be one at a time. I get annoyed and upset but I know he is struggling so I pick up the pieces, for instance, clean up the kitchen after him, bed making, lunch prep until one day the socks became too much.
There are socks all over our house, I pick them up, shout at a lot of teenagers and ending up clearing them away. It isn’t my family fault, I must do it. I am the sock martyr I will pick them up, wash them and find the pairs and put them away. I moan and I groan but I do it. I am perfect, I am superwomen, I can do this and run a Coaching and Pilates business. Until one day I decide no I am none of those things – not perfect, not superwoman, just super exhausted. The socks can look after themselves I am going to have a cuppa!
It may feel selfish to think about yourself, but as a client said to me this week:
“invest in you as it is likely no one else will” gorgeous client
How about you change the story, why not change your story? In fact why not change your life your next step to empowerment is get Gorgeous! how to look and feel fantastic every day. Pick up your copy and start your new journey into a new way of thinking.
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Vishen Lakhani from Mindvalley calls our rules – brules – bullshit rules. Rules about ourselves that we hold dear, societal rules. The rules for women are a long list. And they begin a bit like this, feel free to add in your own rules:
- how you should appear
- speak nice
- look nice
- don’t be too over enthusiastic
- not too emotional
The worse rules of all our food rules! They are the most damaging and hold you in a pattern of negative thinking as well as wasting your precious life energy and increase your feelings of failure.
A gorgeous client of mine explained to me that she went to Royal Ascot this week, a picnic in the Windsor Great Park with a lovely group of girls, 5 other amazing ladies, each lady was very successful in their own right and were amazing. The sun was shining, life doesn’t get much more glitzy. Watching the queen and the royal entourage of guests arrive in their cars and then travel to Royal Ascot in their fabulous carriage. The Queen was joined by Will and Kate and Camilla and Charles – all very exciting.
And the conversation of the day? How many calories in an olive? How many points in a cocktail sausage! Linda, my client, was dismayed with the level of effort it required to consider the consequences of the food that they ate. Brules are rules that you think you should follow but that end up keeping you contracted.
Faddy diets deprive your amazing body of nutrients, but they also have an incredibly detrimental impact upon your mental wellbeing. Diets make many women feel confused, upset and disappointed as they continue to ‘fail’. My new book Gorgeous! I challenge your old school ‘diet mentality.’
“Adele’s infectious positivity, empathetic nature and ‘back to basics’ healthy habits will allow any busy woman to integrate the right foods and mindset into your daily routine.”
Gorgeous! not only provides you with expert guidance to change your perception of food, but it will also allow sustainable weight loss to occur, easily.
Improve your relationship with you
Knowing yourself is an interesting and thoughtful journey, which will offer you so much more than simply your weight loss. You are fascinating, you are intriguing, you are amazing. Return back to the women you were, when life was full of anticipation and hope for your future. Regain your best health with nutrition, exercise that suits you and the latest science around mindset and mental health.
I want you to be the gorgeous girl you have always meant to be. Headspace that is filled with negativity does not help you or your loved ones. I want you to shine and be gloriously happy. Gorgeous! look and feel and fantastic every day! If you would like to understand your body more, get to grips with the nutritional balance that will work for you feel free to book in your free consultation time with me.
You and I will discuss where you are currently and where you would love to be in 3 or 6 months time. I look forward to chatting with you, you know how I love to chat 😉
Get Gorgeous is a journey together – yours and mine.
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“Gorgeous! is the perfect read for anyone looking to revolutionise not only their relationship with food and movement but also their relationship with themselves. With Adele’s reassurance and expert guidance, any woman will feel inspired and empowered to begin their journey to prioritising themselves and their health – everybody is perfect and everybody is gorgeous!”