Forget willpower rely on healthy habits

Adele Stickland Adele Stickland

Transformational Goals arise from habits

Research has proved that your overall happiness is often boosted by the formation of positive daily habits, your feelings of accomplishment and success are easily enhanced by following your simple daily habits.

Habits are the small decisions you make and actions you perform every day. A habit is generally defined as a behaviour that is recurrent, is cued by a specific context, and it often happens without much awareness or conscious intent.  Habits are acquired through frequent repetition.

Habits are the small decisions you make and actions you perform every day. A habit is generally defined as a behaviour that is recurrent, is cued by a specific context, and it often happens without much awareness or conscious intent.  Habits are acquired through frequent repetition.

“Habits are the invisible architecture of daily life”

– Gretchen Rubin ‘Better than Before’

Your life right at this moment is essentially the sum of your habits.  The way you feel and look right now are because of your daily habits, whether you cycle to work or school, are snacking on crisps,  or walking 10,000 steps daily will have a direct impact on where you are now and how you feel physically and mentally.

Reflect for a moment and consider where you are right now is a result of your daily habits:

  • How fit you are – is a result of your daily habits like walking 10k steps, running or are you sedentary?
  • How healthy you are – is a result of your daily eating habits whether that is snacking on crisps as a daily habit or carrot sticks
  • How successful you are – is dependent on your daily habits

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The good news is that adding small habits into your daily routine, will in time, turn your whole life around.

  • Exercising every day will change your fitness levels
  • Eating more vegetables every day will change your healthy and your energy levels
  • Reading 10 pages of a lively, interesting blog like mine 😉 will help to grow your thoughts and encourage a positive mindset.

Small changes lead to a big impact on your life

How happy you are right now is down to the habits that mindlessly carry out all day.  What you repeatedly do (i.e. what you spend time thinking about and doing each day) ultimately forms the person you are and the personality that you show the world.

 

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Do you remember my blog on ‘growth mindset’ if you consider yourself to be happy and become so? It is the ‘law of attraction’. If you think positive thoughts, positive things will be attracted to you and vice versa. It is very difficult, nay impossible, to control every thought, so don’t do that, instead, concentrate on your mood.  Use that switch in your brain to focus on the ‘blue’ in the sky, every time your brain wanders over to why that person is driving like a wally. Look up – see the blue, even if you can’t find any blue in the sky it will distract you long enough to forget the person that just tried to run you off the road 🙂 hopefully.

“People do not decide their futures, they decide their habits and their habits decide their futures.”

– F. M. Alexander

 

Habits eliminate the need for self-control

You have a limited amount of self-control strength as you exert it you exhaust it.  Have you noticed that your willpower is stronger in the morning?  Your mindset is positive and you begin your day with a healthy breakfast, you can accomplish your 10,000 steps and exercise routines or visits to the gym easily. 

Your brain makes your behaviour into a habit as quickly as possible because it saves longer-term effort.  Creating habits is easy for your brain and gives you the ability to deal with more everyday tasks. If you had to ‘think through’ everything you did in a day you would be exhausted, so habits take out the mental energy from your daily decisions.  Habits make your life easier. Just look at what you are pre-programmed to buy in the supermarket. If you had to change your brand or shopping list EVERY TIME you went shopping it would take hours.

You have control over your habits, they are not pre-programmed at birth, you set them.
Start to notice the habits that you have already.

  1. Brush your teeth
  2. morning snack
  3. Reach for coffee in the afternoon because of a tiredness slump
  4. Home for the day glass of wine?

When you want to create a new habit it is very important that you are mindful of your current habits.

You can then shape new ones with clarity and observations, mindfulness.

However, when you are tired or stressed at the end of the day it is far easier to forget your good intention or even to a few bad habits because you are exhausted.  Turning to a habit has been proved by research to reassure you, so at the end of the day, it is easier to turn to a comforting habit that you have used repeatedly. When you are worried or overwhelmed, a habit will comfort you. Whether that habit is slippers and a cuppa or a large glass of wine after a busy day.  Researchers suggest that people feel more in control and less anxious when engaged in a habit behaviour. There is comfort in a habit, it is reassuring.

 

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The interesting finding from research is that habits that you turn to when you are stressed don’t have to be bad habits. Instead of reaching for a glass of wine your habit could be swapped for a ‘run’, or simply getting outside in the fresh air and walking or letting your mind wander with 6mins of relaxation in the bath.

When you use your daily habits you conserve your self-control. You don’t need self-control to perform an action you have done several hundred times before, you do it without thinking about it. The freedom from decision making is crucial because when you have to decide to do something it is often associated with emotions and feelings that mean you have to resist temptation or postpone gratification.  It taxes your self-control.

 

Of course, it takes self-control to establish a good habit in the first instance.

Jacked up on adrenaline?

This phrase is particularly pertinent to me, I used to feel this often from sugar highs or simply overworked stress adrenaline highs. You can feel exhausted on adrenaline from caffeine and/or sugar. You can feel frantically busy which is stimulated and exacerbated from these stimulants you can’t make CHANGE. You are too wired and exhausted, anything new would be too hard to incorporate in a frenzied state.

However, when you are calm, when you have time and when you are mindful you can begin to use new habits.  practise your new habits and when you do get too busy your new habits will help you to calm down.

Habits make change possible 

Habits can set you free from decision making and from using self-control.  In order to really shape a habit well, you need to know yourself, be self-aware.

 

“Habits make change possible by freeing you from decision making and from using self-control”

– Gretchen Rubin ‘Better Than Before’

Reasons Habits Fail

  • You try to change everything at once. It’s too much, too soon.
  • You start with a habit that’s too big. You get overwhelmed and frustrated that you aren’t making progress.
  • You’re seeking a result, not establishing a ritual you can stick with. You’re focusing on the outcome, not the actual behaviour.
  • You don’t change your environment. We rarely admit it (or even realise it), but our behaviours are often a simple response to the environment we find ourselves in.
  • You assume small changes don’t add. The underlying assumption is that your achievements need to be big to make a difference. Because of this, we always talk ourselves into chasing a big habit.

Setting your healthy goals

Do you have a healthy goal? Having goals gives you a sense of direction and purpose.

BUT what if your goal is a considerable long way ahead of where you are now?  What if you want to be bikini fit in 6 weeks and you are still munching on chocolate and haven’t exercised for the last 3 months.  Overwhelm or stress means that you end up biting off more than you can chew and the goal is too big to accomplish. Habits, on the other hand, make transformations easy but they take longer to implement.  Taking your time means that you will have a new habit for life and complete your transformation.

Too often, you let your motivation and desires drive you into a crazy frenzy.  You try and solve your entire problem in one go.  Your success depends on starting a small, new routine. A routine habit that will ease the strain.

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Find out what other gorgeous girls have to say…

What a fantastic holiday on the Pilates Retreat in Malaga in May. I thought that I would take a week to come back down to earth before posting a review to reflect on the week and what a positive and beneficial impact it has had on my own health and well being plus the absolutely marvellous, inspirational and supportive Adele and Katie that led and organised the retreat.The other companions who attended the retreat were so interesting with everyone being there for their own reason. That is why the retreat was brilliant as there was freedom and flexibility in what you wanted to do as we all needed to get different outcomes from the retreat. Putting 13 relative strangers together was expertly managed by Adele and it was a totally 100% positive vibe amongst the group. There were so many laughs around the pool, dining room table and whilst doing pilates as some of the proposed positions to get into where largely only achieved by Adele but my goodness did we have fun trying!The food was superb, fresh fish, fresh vegetables and fruit expertly prepared by Katie 3 times a day with fresh eggs from the chickens who lived at the side of the house. Katie was such an adorable positive complement to Adele – you would think they were sisters as they both sparked off each other which made the whole holiday so brilliant. Nothing was too much trouble – you don’t get that even at a 5 star hotel but they both did with enormous smiles on their faces. The accommodation was out of this world – loads of space and privacy and in a lovely quiet location – Adele could not have picked a better place. There were board games, videos available but to be honest, we were normally fast asleep in bed by 10pm. I can thoroughly recommend going on a retreat with Adele – she really does make you laugh and keep you thoroughly entertained and has an infectious mojo that you cannot but help adore her. I personally took away the fact that it is okay to have some ” down time and me time” and that we shouldn’t guilty in doing so and actually having a bit of down time gives you tons more energy. So I starting as I mean to go on and have already booked my next holiday. This was all complemented by Adele’s Get Gorgeous book which is like a good thriller – once you pick it up, you can’t put it down until you know “whodunnit!!” So here’s to the next time!🥳🤩🐥

Susannah Jordan NHS manager Gorgeous Pilates Retreat 4th June 2019

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